Have him show up the way you need, without the fight.
More reassurance. More romance. A man who opens up instead of shutting down. Soft Response gives you the words to ask for it in a way he can actually hear, starting tonight.
Soft Response is $47 for waitlist members when doors open on Mon, Nov 9 (regular price $97). Joining the waitlist costs nothing. One payment, nothing renews.
Where you are, and where you want to be.
He forgets what you told him. He sends a dry text, or waits for you to reach out first. You tell yourself it’s fine, go quiet, and go to bed hurt.
Every time, you feel a little more misunderstood, and a little less safe telling him what you need.
A man who reassures you, opens up to you, and shows up the way you need, because he finally understands what you’re asking for.
Therapy, books and podcasts helped you understand why you react. Trying harder on your own hasn’t changed it. Nobody gave you the exact words for the moment it happens.
Soft Response is the simplest way to get there. Short lessons, word-for-word scripts, and one you can use tonight.
Join the waitlistThe #1 result is “I am misunderstood.”
Over a thousand women have taken the quiz, and more of them got this wound than any other. Soft Response was built for exactly that feeling.
The scripts give you the words to share each of these wounds the Soft Response way: calm, kind, and clear about what you need.
If you’re used to handling everything on your own, telling him what hurts can feel like the last thing you want to do. But if he never hears it, he can’t comfort you or change what he’s doing. Letting him in is what lets him show up for you.
The course has scripts for all four.
Get in first, for $47.
Joining the waitlist costs nothing. Doors open Monday, Nov 9 at 10am PT, and waitlist members get 72 hours to buy at $47 instead of $97. One payment, nothing renews. 30-day money-back guarantee.
Name it. Calm it. Say it soft.
Name it
Not “I’m upset.” The real feeling, and what set it off: “When that happened, I felt unimportant.” When you say “I feel” and own it, he hears what you need instead of blame. A feelings word list makes it easy to find.
Calm it
Catch it before it turns into a fight. A simple pause for the moment you feel it rising, so you answer him instead of an old hurt.
Say it soft
Start with appreciation so he doesn’t feel criticized, say what you felt, then ask for one specific thing.
“I’m fine.” (Then, once I was triggered, everything came out wrong.)
“I appreciate how hard you’re working, and I know it’s for us. But I’ve been feeling a little unimportant lately. Could we plan a date night?”
He apologized, brought me flowers, and planned it.
This was me.
Before
I grew up believing men could hurt you, so I kept love at arm’s length. I was cold until I was triggered, then everything came out the wrong way. I was always looking for a reason to leave.
Now
I can sit in a hard conversation without getting defensive. I say what I need early, calmly, and he hears me.
— Naomi
me + my best friend
Taught by Naomi. Rooted in our method.
I shared part of my journey on The Tamron Hall Show. Today I’m married to my best friend, Troy. You might know him as Relationship Guy, where 120K people follow his relationship advice. He’s certified in integrated attachment theory and has coached relationships for about six years. Together we run Deepn., our home for courses that help you love well.
“When Naomi needs something, she doesn’t shut down. She tells me kindly, in a way that still makes me feel appreciated, so I’m happy to give it to her.”
Troy, Relationship Guy · Naomi’s husbandSix short lessons. One evening.
Questions
No. The waitlist is free. You only pay if you choose to buy when doors open: $47 for waitlist members (Nov 9 to 11), then $97. One payment, nothing renews.
Yes. You can practice it with the people you’re dating, and you’ll be ready when you’re in a serious relationship or married.
No. Soft isn’t passive. It’s being secure enough to tell the truth without letting your reaction tell it for you. You still say what hurt and what you need.
You probably already have, and you know the information isn’t the problem. Soft Response gives you the exact words for the moment you need them.
No. It’s a self-paced course and script library you keep.
About an hour. Finish it in one evening and come back to the scripts whenever you need them.
You’re covered by a 30-day money-back guarantee. If it’s not for you, ask for a refund within 30 days of buying and you’ll get your money back.